Breaking free from forgiveness

Forgiveness is a personal process that doesn’t depend on us having direct contact with the people who have hurt us. – Sharon Salzberg

Many a time forgiveness becomes very hard because we mistakenly think that we must stay in the relationship that is causing us pain. You have every right to break free from a relationship if it is hurting to be in it.

Do not hold your breath for anyone,
Do not wish your lungs to be still,
It may delay the cracks from spreading,
But eventually they will.
Sometimes to keep yourself together
You must allow yourself to leave,
Even if breaking your own heart
Is what it takes to let you breathe.
Erin Hanson

But, remember. We must forgive the person not for causing hurt and pain. This would amount to being judgmental. We must forgive as Louise Hay says: I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I set you free and I set myself free. This is admitting that your hurt is the result of your own expectations, even if the expectations were just and natural.

And don’t forget to forgive yourself. It will free you from your past. When we forgive we allow the evolution of our own soul. We pave the way for health, wealth and prosperity to usher in our lives.

By the way, God doesn’t need to forgive. Because He doesn’t judge at all. Being non-judgmental will free us from the ritual of forgiveness and will make us a magnet for the best of everything in the world.

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

 

 

Sensitive

To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. – Anthon St. Maarten

Sensitivity is a great quality. Those who can understand with hearts are truly alive. In my opinion, faith and sensitivity go hand in hand. Those who lack faith in the Divine are fearful, insecure…always scared.

They are so busy securing their lives, rights, possessions and interests that they can hardly sense the pains and pleasures of fellow humans. They are very suspicious. They are the ones who criticize everything that doesn’t suit them. They have lost the ability to see beyond appearances.

My words may sound judgmental. But, the aim is not to judge. The aim is to remind…as Dr. Hew Len says: If you can feel it, you can heal it.

If we think that the world is in a bad shape and needs to change, we need to understand the problems. And understanding is impossible without sensitivity. We need to listen to people open mindedly. We need to learn to analyze our patterns or thoughts which disallow us to be more accommodating and helping.

What do we truly aspire? Is it not peace and harmony? Is it not love and joy? Is it not health and prosperity for all? We may get a sense of satisfaction to accomplish our personal goals and dreams. But, when everyone becomes part of the prosperity, we are truly fulfilled.

Sometimes I think, I need a spare heart to feel all the things I feel.- Sanober Khan, A Thousand Flamingos

Let us live. Let us be sensitive. It’s Divine.

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach