To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. – Anthon St. Maarten

Sensitivity is a great quality. Those who can understand with hearts are truly alive. In my opinion, faith and sensitivity go hand in hand. Those who lack faith in the Divine are fearful, insecure…always scared.

They are so busy securing their lives, rights, possessions and interests that they can hardly sense the pains and pleasures of fellow humans. They are very suspicious. They are the ones who criticize everything that doesn’t suit them. They have lost the ability to see beyond appearances.

My words may sound judgmental. But, the aim is not to judge. The aim is to remind…as Dr. Hew Len says: If you can feel it, you can heal it.

If we think that the world is in a bad shape and needs to change, we need to understand the problems. And understanding is impossible without sensitivity. We need to listen to people open mindedly. We need to learn to analyze our patterns or thoughts which disallow us to be more accommodating and helping.

What do we truly aspire? Is it not peace and harmony? Is it not love and joy? Is it not health and prosperity for all? We may get a sense of satisfaction to accomplish our personal goals and dreams. But, when everyone becomes part of the prosperity, we are truly fulfilled.

Sometimes I think, I need a spare heart to feel all the things I feel.- Sanober Khan, A Thousand Flamingos

Let us live. Let us be sensitive. It’s Divine.

Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach


I own my anger

If you try to get rid of fear and anger without knowing their meaning, they will grow stronger and return. – Dr. Deepak Chopra.

We are not just told by others, we somehow know that fear and anger are not qualities to possess happily. So we try to suppress, burry, ignore or act contrary to them. For example, we deliberately act bravely to disguise our fears. But, all these ways do not really help in getting rid of fear and anger.

Knowing these feelings, understanding the causes underlying them, and most importantly owning them is essential to their healing. Some people do accept their fears and anger. But, most of us repudiate them. As a result, we project it outside of us. We notice fear and anger in people around us more often than we consciously know. It is a natural response of the mind.

If we know our fear and anger and do not disown them, we will hardly notice it in others. Acceptance is the first step to healing and overcoming them; understanding is the second. Fear and anger are two faces of the same emotions. They generate two responses – fight or flight. We know about these instinctive reactions. But, still cannot accept our emotions.

The antidote or cure for fear and anger is Love. Self love is the best healer. Accepting yourself as you are and loving yourself despite any quality or trait you dislike in yourself, helps in healing them. Cursing yourself would be of little help.

Try this: Think of a quality or trait you do not deny in yourself. Now try to recollect if you ever noticed it in others. You will be amazed to know that you do not project it outside. This experiment will provide greater insights.

Love, Joy, Peace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Achieve Happily, Not Happiness.

You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness right now. – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.

I know. I know. This is hard to digest. But, then what is peace and happiness all about? Doesn’t that mean acknowledgement? Doesn’t that need acceptance?

I do not intend to say that we should not have dreams, desires, goals. We can very well be, as Ben Sweetland puts it: ‘Happily Discontent‘. We may choose to be happy and grateful for whatever we have right now and then act to enhance the joy or even to share the joy. Fulfilment of our dreams and desires can just be the sources or means of expansion of these feelings. “Achieving happily and not happiness.”

The secret key to success in any area of our lives is ‘Joy’. If you take off from this feeling, you will land in the same feeling. If you take off from a feeling of unhappiness, neediness, or desperation, you will land in those feelings. There are no crossroads. But there are tunnels for us to transform at any moment in between the journey and thus redirect landing.

Even if we have started off from a place of need, we can transform the feeling to enthusiasm or exuberance. We can convert the nature of our goal from ambition to expression. Is this why people say, ‘Happy Landing’ when we take a flight? I guess so! Let this Monday be the foundation stone in building not just the week ahead, but the new year soon arriving. God is equally excited!

#Love, #Joy, #Peace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach