Creating Joy

If life gives you lemons, don’t settle for simply making lemonade. Make a glorious scene at a lemonade stand – Elizabeth Gilbert

Life gives us everything to create, expand, evolve and to have fun. Look at everything in your life and think how can it add to your joy. Sounds weird? But, it’s not. It’s a matter of change in approach. Things may be causing stress, things may be making you angry or anxious or sad or helpless or…. But, change your approach…not just the perspective. Change your approach while dealing with the situation or problem or person.

Nothing happens with you. Everything happens for you. – Tejguru Sirshree Tejparkhi. This sentence has helped me change my approach in the most disturbing, angry or maddening moments. If everything that’s happening is for me, then I try to dig for its purpose. The moment I change my approach, I become peaceful, hopeful, curious and everything that happens thereafter is insightful.

According to Gautam Buddha we have only two causes: joy and gratitude. And when we learn to be grateful for the seemingly unpleasant experiences, we find the joy of living.

Experience and suffering are two absolutely different things. As Eckhart Tolle says if we accept every experience as though we have chosen it, suffering ends. We can experience pain, but suffering is unnecessary.

We are born to be joyous all the time. Each and every spiritual teacher says this. Each and every spiritual master lived this. This is just one way of living. But, indeed the wisest one!

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Breaking free from forgiveness

Forgiveness is a personal process that doesn’t depend on us having direct contact with the people who have hurt us. – Sharon Salzberg

Many a time forgiveness becomes very hard because we mistakenly think that we must stay in the relationship that is causing us pain. You have every right to break free from a relationship if it is hurting to be in it.

Do not hold your breath for anyone,
Do not wish your lungs to be still,
It may delay the cracks from spreading,
But eventually they will.
Sometimes to keep yourself together
You must allow yourself to leave,
Even if breaking your own heart
Is what it takes to let you breathe.
Erin Hanson

But, remember. We must forgive the person not for causing hurt and pain. This would amount to being judgmental. We must forgive as Louise Hay says: I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I set you free and I set myself free. This is admitting that your hurt is the result of your own expectations, even if the expectations were just and natural.

And don’t forget to forgive yourself. It will free you from your past. When we forgive we allow the evolution of our own soul. We pave the way for health, wealth and prosperity to usher in our lives.

By the way, God doesn’t need to forgive. Because He doesn’t judge at all. Being non-judgmental will free us from the ritual of forgiveness and will make us a magnet for the best of everything in the world.

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

 

 

Live like God

Synchronicity is an ever present reality for those who have eyes to see it. – Carl Jung

It’s all about how we think and what we believe. If we believe that there is a Supreme Intelligence (howsoever you may name it.. God, Nature, Universe), and if we believe that the Supreme Intelligence has infinite organizing power and if we believe that the Supreme Intelligence can orchestrate anything and everything to fulfill our integral intentions, then we can really, relax, watch and enjoy the process of life. We can then participate in the play and live our roles without attachment. That would be a state of bliss. We will enjoy everything but require nothing. Hey, that’s how God is!

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Surrender

Once you surrender to your vision, success begins to chase you. – Robin Sharma

Profound! Isn’t it? Most of us are conditioned to do exactly the opposite. We are trained to chase success and surrender our vision for attaining the illusion of success.

This makes us hollow. We feel the vacuum. We miss the sense of satisfaction. We lose opportunities to create and keep groping for meaning.

If you have a vision, it’s the most priceless endowment, a peerless blessing. Appreciate its value and the value of your life will appreciate in geometrical proportions.

We are not born to control. We are born to surrender to our visions, our dreams… Life wants to create through us. Each and everything in nature except humans knows this. We mistakenly believe that we have a duty, a responsibility to do a lot of things for our growth and prosperity. We think that we must struggle for survival.

We are supposed simply to allow miracles to manifest through us…to experience the incredible…the mesmerizing and immerse in exuberance.

We all have visions. But, we turn their volume so low that we cannot even hear them now. Decrease the volume of the conditioned mind and fine tune with intuition…inspiration and surrender to Life to live in the true sense. God has been telling this to us since ages. It’s time to listen.

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

 

Perception of Wonder

The more clearly we can focus our attention on the wonders and realities of the universe about us, the less taste we shall have for destruction. – Rachel Carson

There is so much to see, hear, smell, sense in the Universe that one lifetime is not enough. There is so much to appreciate, enjoy and wonder about! I am not talking about the seven wonders. I am talking about adopting the perception of wonder.

As Ray Bradbury says: We are an impossibility in an impossible universe. Our birth and entire existence seems so wonderful! We cannot sit and create a human with tools and equipments. It SEEMS impossible. But, we all witness its possibility.

And the more we will learn to observe and see wonders in the Universe, the more we will have faith in the possibility of everything which we presumed to be impossible, including World Peace.

As a matter of fact, World Peace is not something we have to bring about or create. We just need to stop disturbing it with destructive thoughts and actions. And the solution is simple: Shifting the focus from anything else and keeping​ it on the wonders and beauty and inexhaustible variety of existence. It’s the same as appreciating God.

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Sensitive

To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. – Anthon St. Maarten

Sensitivity is a great quality. Those who can understand with hearts are truly alive. In my opinion, faith and sensitivity go hand in hand. Those who lack faith in the Divine are fearful, insecure…always scared.

They are so busy securing their lives, rights, possessions and interests that they can hardly sense the pains and pleasures of fellow humans. They are very suspicious. They are the ones who criticize everything that doesn’t suit them. They have lost the ability to see beyond appearances.

My words may sound judgmental. But, the aim is not to judge. The aim is to remind…as Dr. Hew Len says: If you can feel it, you can heal it.

If we think that the world is in a bad shape and needs to change, we need to understand the problems. And understanding is impossible without sensitivity. We need to listen to people open mindedly. We need to learn to analyze our patterns or thoughts which disallow us to be more accommodating and helping.

What do we truly aspire? Is it not peace and harmony? Is it not love and joy? Is it not health and prosperity for all? We may get a sense of satisfaction to accomplish our personal goals and dreams. But, when everyone becomes part of the prosperity, we are truly fulfilled.

Sometimes I think, I need a spare heart to feel all the things I feel.- Sanober Khan, A Thousand Flamingos

Let us live. Let us be sensitive. It’s Divine.

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Expectations

Expect your every need to be met. Expect the answer to every problem, expect abundance on every level. – Eileen Caddy

Expectation is a word we have been trained to stay away from. It is indeed a cause of suffering in many situations. But, there was a proviso we might have forgotten to read.

Expectations of good(in our opinion) behaviour from everyone, expectation that everything in the world should be as we want, expectation that nothing will ever fail,…these are the kinds of expectations which are, in fact, bound to fail. Consequent disappointment is the cause of misery.

But, if we perceive and accept the present as good and then expect it to get better, it will get better. The problem lies in rejecting the current reality as bad and then expecting it to improve.

Expectation is not bad in itself. In fact, it is not bad at all. Resisting the present causes unhappiness.

We must expect to receive the best of everything the Universe has to offer. God awaits that expectation.

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach