Change

We have a whole lot of complaints to make about people, places, things, institutions, organizations, systems, and even ourselves. Fair. Nothing wrong. But, what next?

Next, remember the prayer:

God give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

Once understood the difference, and gathered courage, we can use our knowledge, creative imagination and resources to bring about the change we think we can.

The easiest way to bring change in the surroundings is through personal change. When we change, everything in life changes. Many find it difficult. But, it needs only two things: Intention and Determination. Rest follow.

The best way for bringing a positive change in our life, in my opinion, is to be grateful for each and everything which is of even slighest advantage, importance or good for us. Counting blessings can counter complaints. God hears the prayer of Love and Gratitude first.

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

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Just move on!

Guilt and fear are the only enemies of man. Guilt is the feeling that keeps you stuck in who you are not. – Neale Donald Walsch

Just think. Can you feel guilty unless there is a shift in your awareness? If you are engrossed in doing something in any moment, you cannot observe or understand whether it is right or wrong. The moment you start observing, you become conscious of the doing. Your conscience is awakened. You can analyse whether what you did was right/good/just or not. Now you are a different person altogether. With the understanding as regards your action, you should move on.

Feeling guilty is like putting one foot forward and allowing the other foot to rest on the previous step. You cannot move on. Drop the guilt and carry the lesson. Don’t judge yourself. Whatever you did was part of your evolution. Simply accept yourself as you are in this moment.

Fear is yet another enemy. It simply locks up the tremendous potential of creation each human has. Fear also keeps you stuck. And if you wish to or supposed to be there, why would anything else excite you or even stir your mind?

If something beckons you, you must move on in that direction. You will be amazed at the precision with which everything unfolds and leads you further. Try love. Give your passion a chance. Try God.

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Intent

Intent > Action > Events > Results
– Chris Oler

Many a time I am asked: Can I attract this…can I attract that? The answer is: You cannot ‘Not Attract’. You are attracting something every moment. You may not know it or may not accept it as attracted by you. What you need to know is how you attract something.

It starts from Intent. You must be clear about the desired outcome…not the process. The path will be chalked out for you if you remain focused on the desired outcome.

People with similar intent can accomplish the desired outcome in a variety of ways. Their ways need not be identical…rather, cannot be identical. Our intent inspires us to move in a particular direction and to take a series of actions. And the series of actions is not revealed to us at once. It unfolds as we move ahead.

Our job is to believe in our intent and be consistent in taking action as per the inspiration. The events that take place during the process are the milestones, not the destination. Although we should enjoy and celebrate crossing these milestones, we should not attach undue importance to them. We should not allow our focus to deviate from the desired outcome.

Nothing can motivate us more than our own Intent and desire. Any external motivation will wither away leaving us weary and withdrawn. But, if we truly desire an outcome and move ahead in that direction, the result will ensue. We will find God waiting to celebrate with us there.

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Colour of Music

And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music. – Friedrich Nietzsche

Do you have ears that can listen to music in everything? Life is filled with melody and rhythm. Catch the notes, play the keys and create symphonies. And even when you cannot hear melody and rhythm, create harmony with the music in your heart.

Music expresses that which cannot be put into words and that which cannot remain silent. – Victor Hugo

Music is a language in itself. You can convey almost anything, even silence. Music can be a companion in joy and it can be the best pal in gloomy moments.

Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness. – Maya Angelou

Music is soothing and healing and above all it’s a colour that can fill the spaces in our life sketches.

If I were not a physicist, I would probably be a musician. I often think in music. I live my daydreams in music. I see my life in terms of music. – Albert Einstein

A lot can be said about music and a lot has already been said. And this is my favourite quote:
Music gives a soul to the Universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything. – Plato

Music is my first love. What about you? And as Neale Donald Walsch says, if you desire to be happier than God, then sing or at least hum!

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Creating Joy

If life gives you lemons, don’t settle for simply making lemonade. Make a glorious scene at a lemonade stand – Elizabeth Gilbert

Life gives us everything to create, expand, evolve and to have fun. Look at everything in your life and think how can it add to your joy. Sounds weird? But, it’s not. It’s a matter of change in approach. Things may be causing stress, things may be making you angry or anxious or sad or helpless or…. But, change your approach…not just the perspective. Change your approach while dealing with the situation or problem or person.

Nothing happens with you. Everything happens for you. – Tejguru Sirshree Tejparkhi. This sentence has helped me change my approach in the most disturbing, angry or maddening moments. If everything that’s happening is for me, then I try to dig for its purpose. The moment I change my approach, I become peaceful, hopeful, curious and everything that happens thereafter is insightful.

According to Gautam Buddha we have only two causes: joy and gratitude. And when we learn to be grateful for the seemingly unpleasant experiences, we find the joy of living.

Experience and suffering are two absolutely different things. As Eckhart Tolle says if we accept every experience as though we have chosen it, suffering ends. We can experience pain, but suffering is unnecessary.

We are born to be joyous all the time. Each and every spiritual teacher says this. Each and every spiritual master lived this. This is just one way of living. But, indeed the wisest one!

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Breaking free from forgiveness

Forgiveness is a personal process that doesn’t depend on us having direct contact with the people who have hurt us. – Sharon Salzberg

Many a time forgiveness becomes very hard because we mistakenly think that we must stay in the relationship that is causing us pain. You have every right to break free from a relationship if it is hurting to be in it.

Do not hold your breath for anyone,
Do not wish your lungs to be still,
It may delay the cracks from spreading,
But eventually they will.
Sometimes to keep yourself together
You must allow yourself to leave,
Even if breaking your own heart
Is what it takes to let you breathe.
Erin Hanson

But, remember. We must forgive the person not for causing hurt and pain. This would amount to being judgmental. We must forgive as Louise Hay says: I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I set you free and I set myself free. This is admitting that your hurt is the result of your own expectations, even if the expectations were just and natural.

And don’t forget to forgive yourself. It will free you from your past. When we forgive we allow the evolution of our own soul. We pave the way for health, wealth and prosperity to usher in our lives.

By the way, God doesn’t need to forgive. Because He doesn’t judge at all. Being non-judgmental will free us from the ritual of forgiveness and will make us a magnet for the best of everything in the world.

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

 

 

Live like God

Synchronicity is an ever present reality for those who have eyes to see it. – Carl Jung

It’s all about how we think and what we believe. If we believe that there is a Supreme Intelligence (howsoever you may name it.. God, Nature, Universe), and if we believe that the Supreme Intelligence has infinite organizing power and if we believe that the Supreme Intelligence can orchestrate anything and everything to fulfill our integral intentions, then we can really, relax, watch and enjoy the process of life. We can then participate in the play and live our roles without attachment. That would be a state of bliss. We will enjoy everything but require nothing. Hey, that’s how God is!

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach