Present Truth

Past data should not be the basis of Present Truth. Data from a prior time or experience should always and only be the basis for new questions. Always the treasure should be in the question, not in the answer.- Neale Donald Walsch.

Truth needs to be deciphered. And to decipher we do not just need to analyze our experiences, we also need to question our experiences; primarily because our experiences are the direct results of our beliefs. These beliefs or the past data cannot always be the basis of our present truth.

Unfortunately, we rarely question our beliefs. Although we are facing undesirable and unwanted experiences, our beliefs are the last thing we would question. Sadly, we try to strengthen our erroneous beliefs by looking for evidence in their support. We forget that life is about creation and not discovery.

We should, therefore, reframe and rephrase the past data to create the experiences we desire. And to do this we must question the past beliefs one by one…even the subtler ones. Start this inquiry today and continue forever to be in touch with the truth…our own truth!

#LoveJoyPeace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Bonds of love

Hold on to the people and things that really matter. Let most of the other stuff go. -Michael Josephson.

Relationship is the most important aspect of our existence. It is the context for our living. It is the platform for our actions. It is very crucial to our identity. Yet, we take these important relationships for granted. We do not just ignore their importance, we actually treat them recklessly.

Death of a near one always comes as a reminder of the importance of all this. But, should we await such reminders? Can we not constantly keep in mind how important it is to take care of the people who really matter to us? We are social animals. We all need people. We must learn to nourish the relationships which are significant for us, especially the ones who really love us.

Devote today for strengthening the bonds of love and God will strengthen His bonds with us.

Love, Joy, Peace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

I own my anger

If you try to get rid of fear and anger without knowing their meaning, they will grow stronger and return. – Dr. Deepak Chopra.

We are not just told by others, we somehow know that fear and anger are not qualities to possess happily. So we try to suppress, burry, ignore or act contrary to them. For example, we deliberately act bravely to disguise our fears. But, all these ways do not really help in getting rid of fear and anger.

Knowing these feelings, understanding the causes underlying them, and most importantly owning them is essential to their healing. Some people do accept their fears and anger. But, most of us repudiate them. As a result, we project it outside of us. We notice fear and anger in people around us more often than we consciously know. It is a natural response of the mind.

If we know our fear and anger and do not disown them, we will hardly notice it in others. Acceptance is the first step to healing and overcoming them; understanding is the second. Fear and anger are two faces of the same emotions. They generate two responses – fight or flight. We know about these instinctive reactions. But, still cannot accept our emotions.

The antidote or cure for fear and anger is Love. Self love is the best healer. Accepting yourself as you are and loving yourself despite any quality or trait you dislike in yourself, helps in healing them. Cursing yourself would be of little help.

Try this: Think of a quality or trait you do not deny in yourself. Now try to recollect if you ever noticed it in others. You will be amazed to know that you do not project it outside. This experiment will provide greater insights.

Love, Joy, Peace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Survival and Dignity

People have a right to basic survival. Even if they do nothing. Even if they contribute nothing. Survival with dignity is one of the basic rights of life. I have given you enough resources to be able to guarantee that to everyone. All you have to do is share.” – Neale Donald Walsch, The Complete Conversations with God.

This piece of wisdom seems difficult to accept…. particularly this…’even if they do nothing’. Right? But, don’t you think we have confused a lot of things? We sometimes base our notions of equality on ‘beingness’ and sometimes on ‘doingness’. For instance, we might give equal pay for equal work; but, we don’t give equal respect to the same two persons if one of them belongs to another race. Our lives and systems are full of contradictions. Then, why not follow the laws of nature..the universe…? Such as, the law of cause and effect, the law of supply, the law of abundance, the law of love, the law of attraction…

We all have equal right to living, and the right to dignity because of the simple fact of our being, and irrespective of our doing. Abundance is there in the Universe. Let us enjoy and share. Let our doing be the medium of expression of our being, and not the source of livelihood. Abundance flows to us by a simple affirmation of gratitude: “Thank you, God, for making me an instrument of thy abundance.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

Hoarding and accumulating without sharing creates imbalance. We all have a right to luxurious life. Let us exercise our right and allow the same experience to others. Dignity would then be an obvious outcome.

Love, Joy, Peace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach