Achieve Happily, Not Happiness.

You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness right now. – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.

I know. I know. This is hard to digest. But, then what is peace and happiness all about? Doesn’t that mean acknowledgement? Doesn’t that need acceptance?

I do not intend to say that we should not have dreams, desires, goals. We can very well be, as Ben Sweetland puts it: ‘Happily Discontent‘. We may choose to be happy and grateful for whatever we have right now and then act to enhance the joy or even to share the joy. Fulfilment of our dreams and desires can just be the sources or means of expansion of these feelings. “Achieving happily and not happiness.”

The secret key to success in any area of our lives is ‘Joy’. If you take off from this feeling, you will land in the same feeling. If you take off from a feeling of unhappiness, neediness, or desperation, you will land in those feelings. There are no crossroads. But there are tunnels for us to transform at any moment in between the journey and thus redirect landing.

Even if we have started off from a place of need, we can transform the feeling to enthusiasm or exuberance. We can convert the nature of our goal from ambition to expression. Is this why people say, ‘Happy Landing’ when we take a flight? I guess so! Let this Monday be the foundation stone in building not just the week ahead, but the new year soon arriving. God is equally excited!

#Love, #Joy, #Peace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

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The Power of Choice

A life lived by choice is a life of conscious action. A life lived by chance is a life of unconscious reaction. – Neale Donald Walsch.

Very often we complain about not having a choice. We use words like ‘forced by circumstances’, ‘family pressure’, ‘constraints’ …etc. We need to check the truth of these words. Is it really the force of circumstances or is it our own inclination? Is it the family pressure or our lack of courage? Are the constraints real or our imaginings? Contemplate.

We always have a choice. There are more than two options, more than two paths. Our choices are also based on our core values. Sometimes we are confronted with a choice between our own different values. Nonetheless, we have a choice.

And instead of blaming anything outside of us, when we say that it is our choice we are empowered beyond measure. Because, now all the aspects which seemed like constraints suddenly start to favour us. Now, we have the power of intention. We no longer remain a puppet of circumstances. The events of the Universe are being synchronized to fulfill our intention. It is always so. When we make a choice we are consciously choosing action. When we decline to make a choice, we are simply reacting to our current reality.

Let this Monday be not just the beginning of the week but the beginning of a conscious empowered life. God supports us in our choices, without judgment.

Love, Joy, Peace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Gift

Be a gift to everyone who enters your life and to everyone whose life you enter. Be careful not to enter another’s life if you cannot be a gift. – Neale Donald Walsch.

This sounds strong, isn’t it? Almost a warning! But, this is a very important message. It indicates the purpose of life. It speaks about the purpose of all relationships. All of us are co-creating our life experiences. If we cannot contribute in a constructive way, we should step out of that relationship.

The only situation when we cannot contribute in a constructive way is one where we presume that what we give should be reciprocated. Had there been no such expectations, we would have enjoyed giving our best. And we do enjoy this. Think about the relationships which you found very fulfilling. And then try to remember from where that fulfilment came? Was that because of something the other did for you, or was that a sheer joy of giving? It is always more satisfying when we share our blessings to make another’s life beautiful.

Let us spend this weekend in truly acknowledging this power. God has created us in the image and likeness of God!

Love, Joy, Peace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach

Miracles

“I am realistic – I expect miracles.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer. “There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. And the other is as though everything is a miracle.” – Albert Einstein. And there is a book named A Course in Miracles. And then there is another book named “You Can Create Your Own Miracles” by Napoleon Hill. And the list of quotes and books can continue. So what is the point I am trying to make? Of course: “I am realistic. – I expect miracles.” Miracles are occurring every moment. We may be calling them by different names, such as, coincidence, telepathy, chance occurrence, fluke, happenstance,..and so on. The sure way to experience them is to expect them. And expect them so often that they become a routine. The denotation of ‘miracle’ may remain the same. But, its connotation will change for you. If you are still finding it difficult to believe, look around. Look at life. Look at Nature. The entire process of life is miraculous. Just expect! God joins us in creating miracles. 

Love, Joy, Peace

Shubha Baldota

Counsellor and Life Coach

Character and Self Esteem

Your reputation is in the hands of others. That’s what reputation is. You can’t control that. The only thing you can control is your character.- Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.

Reputation nurtures pride. Whereas, building, maintaining and refining our character nurtures our self esteem. Self esteem is true strength. We can build self esteem by being watchful about our thoughts, speech and action. When there is consistency between all the three there is authenticity. We should refrain from speaking what we do not intend to do. Speech devoid of intent is a sure way to diminish self esteem. When we intend something, say something else and do something entirely different we create a chaos in our own minds.

Maintaining and refining of character is done by allowing our conscience to rule us. Our reputation should not drive us. Let reputation come as an obvious outcome of a life lived with inner strength. Have a building weekend. God literally serves us when we are authentic.

Love, Joy, Peace
Shubha Baldota
Counsellor and Life Coach